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Theology of sexuality
By Sister Usha and Brother Osiris
One way in which Divinely Female differs from many other religions is in its attitude toward sexuality. Many people have misinterpreted our beliefs on this subject. We wish now to offer the following explanation.
The basic theology surrounding our beliefs is that within the soul of every woman lies the most powerful force in the universe. It is this power that created all life, and it is this same power that sustains life. This is the reason we worship femininity, because every woman contains a piece of this creative energy. It lies sleeping within her body, fully awakened only during divine ecstasy.
Men cannot generate this life force of their own accord. They must obtain life force from women. Each man is given life by his mother. He must periodically obtain a fresh dose of this energy by returning to the place of his birth (or a reasonable facsimile thereof) and obtain new energy. Thus from the man's point of view, his lingam (penis) is like the plug of an electrical cord, and the yoni (vulva) is like an electrical outlet.
Therefore two things happen during sex. The woman experiences first-hand the awesome potential of what lies within her. She transcends the mundane existance of this world and for the duration of her orgasm has become something more powerful than any mere man can ever hope to become. She has stopped being a woman and has become a goddess.
The man cannot experience this first hand. The closest he can come is to hold a woman in his arms as she experiences it. He benefits by obtaining a dose of enlightenment of his own, a reward for helping the woman experience it. This is necessary for his spiritual well-being.
Every person should be aware of the needs of people of the opposite gender and assist in fulfilling these needs. Men have the moral obligation to help women attain the most intense and long-lasting ecstasies they are capable of. They also need to respect the women involved, recognizing the value of the power in their souls and being grateful to them for sharing it. Women, likewise, need to be aware of every man's need to refresh his spiritual batteries.
This could be very easily be misinterpreted as an advocacy of promiscuity. It is not. The decision to devote all of one's energy to a single recipient is a noble act of love. Similarly, this could be misinterpreted as an advocacy of having sex with an unnatural frequency. It is not. Every person has a certain level of physical and spiritual needs, and it would be foolish to exceed this.
What we are in fact saying is simply that sex is a good thing, a positive act deserving to be honored and respected. A woman deciding to have sex is increasing the level of her own spirituality while at the same time generously donating a portion of that divine energy to a man. She is to be commended and thanked for this.
Many women are annoyed at the frequent insistence of men that women fulfill these male needs. It is perfectly normal and natural for men to have these needs and to want women to fulfill them. Women when they choose to help men in this way are performing positive acts. What we do object to is men requesting it. Sex is a gift from a woman to a man. It is impolite to ask for a gift.
This said, what should be the proper roles for men and women with regards to sex? Sex should never be done at the man's suggestion. It should always be the woman's initiative, her idea. Just as she should not be criticized for having sex, she should be equally immune from criticism for not doing so. The choice is hers and hers alone. A woman need not have physical sex to pass this energy on to a man. A pretty smile or a flirtatious gesture can lift a man's spirits and increase his level of happiness.
The decision of how to do the act should likewise be hers, and her needs must be put above those of the man. Too many times in too many bedrooms has a man rushed to please himself, ignoring the needs of the woman entirely. This is a crime, a crime of theft. He has stolen the life force for himself without helping her realize her potential to the fullest. A man must devote his body and his soul completely to the task of pleasing the woman. This is to his advantage. Selfishness may bring a few moments of physical pleasure, but will not add to his spiritual enlightenment. Generosity and patience in helping the woman will in the long run be infinitely more fulfilling.
Every woman has power over men. She can make him smile or make him cry in ways that no other man can. She should not be afraid of that power, but she should use it wisely, to increase the amount of happiness and spiritual enlightenment within her own soul and within the souls of those around her. This is a sacred obligation. Men have the sacred obligation to recognize this power and hold it in awe and reverence. They and the women in their lives will be happier if they do.